Is a lie good at times ?

My values are too strong. I can't lie to people .. i wont say i never lied.. but people who knows me will agree that i don't lie. And i hate people who does it ! Specially when a person lies with the most confidence. It is beyond my imagination. How do they do it so beautifully? At times i want to learn that art. It might help me at times if not always ! isn't it ?

But do people choose to lie only to save himself? Or is it the circumstances ? which forces one to say that lie ? Or the person to whom he lies to, had forced him to speak so ? Maybe the listener can't digest the truth .. so is the lie better ? if yes, then shouldn't the lie be a well secret ? what if, the person comes to know of the truth anyways ... then?? where does both people stand now? Considering the teller be A and listener be B : how should both A and B react ? B feels guilty of how pathetic he is .. how his behavior forced a lie out of A. A must be guilty of telling the lie .. The whole thing is so confusing !! Isn't it better to keep a distance between the two so that such confrontation never comes up ever in life ? a space of respect for each to be the individual they are. isn't thats the best ? the space might hurt in the beginning .. but to have a happy life such hurts are a worth for!

Respecting an individuals likes/dis-likes should be the prime thing for life. A person forcing another to say a lie is as much a sinner as the one who lied. Don't ever force a person to the edge . . you might not like a habit of your friend but respect it as long as it doesn't effect your life . He is an individual . He has his own likes/dis-likes. Its his Life after all !! He can live life once. So let it be !!

SEE . . . lie is not as bad as it is in my mind. Life teaches us many things and its better you learn fast from them before time flies away.

Keep Smiling !!! I love my Life !!! :)

50 FIRST REACTIONS

This is called 50 FIRST REACTIONS. Type what comes to your mind FIRST whenever you see these 50 words. Don't think and don't go back and change. Doesn't matter how random it is, just type it! Re-post it for all of your friends. Consider yourself tagged if you are reading this!

1. Beer: No

2. Food: i love few specific stuff... rest i eat just to stay alive

3. Relationships: love to nourish them

4. Your CRUSH: m too old for that word i guess.. stopped happening :(

5. Power Rangers: wat ???

6. Life: smile

7. The President: abdul kallam .. i respected him the most till date

8. Yummy: mutton or hilsa (ilish) fish

9. Cars: honda CRV/scorpio ;)

10. Movies: love them... except the violent ones

11. Halloween: dress upp

12. Sex: female ;)

13. Religion: hindu

14. Hate: Alcohol

15. Fear: height

16. Marriage: responsibilty and care for ur spouse more than urself

17. Blondes: dumb

18. Slippers: i need to wear it always here at home... i hate it :( i love clean home but jindal plant sucks

19. Shoes: many

20. Asians: beauty

21. Pastime: internet

22. One night stand: never attracted

23. My cell Phone: walk whn u talk

24. Smoke: tried ... didnt like. i hate the smell these days

25. Fantasy: to own a sexy gown

26. College: mixed feeling

27. High school life: FUN

28. Pajamas: night dress tho i prefer shorts

29. Stars: romantic

30. Center: gunjan

31. Alcohol: no

32. The word love: :)

33. Friends: love them

34. Money: important gives u a stand in the family/society

35. Heartache: lessons leanrt

36. Time: best healer

37. Divorce: if u want to die its a opening for life.. otherwise just a shortcut to run away from responsibilities and adjustments

38. Dogs: love them

39. Undies: black

40. Parents: unconditioned love

41. Babies: adorable

42. Ex: forget them

43. Song: cant think of any particular song

44. Color: white/black/red

45. Weddings: easiest way to waste money ... m fine with the basic needs. hate the show off trend

46. Pizza: m bored now

47. Hangout: city centre food plaza in kolkata

48. Rest: lie down

49. Goal: football

50. Inspiration: baba

I am Happy !

"aaj mein khush hoon ... ki tum hi bolo mein khush kiu " weird song .. many might not evn know its a song ... but today i feel like singing it... weird na ? :D he he not really .. i am so happy today.. if u ask me why i dont have any answer to it.

I feel to dress up .. wander somewhere ... talk talk and talk .. i am in hyper mode .. so excited.. clicking some photographs will be the best thing i guess ... i love my life.. i have one life and i love it so much.

Once my english teacher had said ...humans always think life has too many troubles and makes us so sad.but if we weigh our happy and sad moments of our whole life we will found it to be the same. its just tat we cherish a day of happiness for jst a day and cry for 10 days for a day's sadness. so its how we want our life to be.

Then i have seen my father. i saw baba follows the same principle. and i have never seen a more happy and content person ever ! that was his secret!!

Thats the time from when i start following it. and today its my habit. i cherish a moment for longer days. i re-recall the moment in regular interval..and it brings a smile on my face. its so easy! it at times makes me smile evn when i have a fight with gunjan. it helps me to forgive gunjan so easily whn i just imagine the smile on his face/how he makes me feel spcl whn he goes rong smwhr / how well he asks for forgiveness. those moments helps me to forgive him at times w/o evn complaining.

Staying happy or sad is all in ur mind. u can control it. and i do so. i can store my sadness for the bigger troubles in life. till then m happy n content. i have got everything that i cud have ever imagined i will get in my life.

Yes i am happy !!! Love to all !!!

SMILE Please !!!

Confused State of Mind

Do u feel at times u don't connect to anyone ? do u feel alone ? in a weird old world.. people around u just blabbering with their own opinions/thots with not even half knowledge of the trouble/pain u are in ....which they name as "advices"... .. do u feel so ?? do you ??

why is it always so easy to share our happiness but not sorrow ??? we have so many expressions to show happiness ... we smile.. we giggle.. laugh .. roll over .. jump .. scream ... sing.. dance what not .. but we know only to shed our tears when we are sad. the more it hurts the less it comes out it seems ... why cant we express our sorrow in words to someone and feel relieved [ i'm talking abt the bigger ones .. plzz ! ]

Aftr spking ur heart out .. did u ever feel cheated ? cheated in the sense .. the person thot u are over -reacting may be .. or its nothing to b That sad .. u knw the feeling "why the hell did i spk!!!" ?? did u ever feel that ??

or is it only me who goes through this ? am i the only one on this earth feeling so ? i hope not !!!!!

why does it hurt so much ! i want a way to dig in there and pull that out of my whole system. we are humans .. ok its not "we" ... high time i speak for myself ... I want to be happy .. I want to relish my life ... I want the @#$%^&* grief to GO ... leave me alone !!!!!

I want a happy Life !

Shubho Mahalaya !!

Shubho Mahalaya to all my friends and loved ones! Staying away from home makes you feel nostalgic at times. Today i am feeling so. i m missing home badly. not sure whether i am missing my home in particular or my folks there or just the festive mood among the pple there.

i want too see the "kaash ful" among the vast green patches of land at salt lake ... the strong smell of "shiuli ful " from the tree at the end of the lane of our house. i miss baba getting busy these days attending the meetings at the Mandir. i miss waiting to get the booklet of the puja details from our local Mandir.i want to plan the dresses i will wear.. plan to go out with my friends and family.. making the schedule whn i m free and whom i can visit whom.. its all so exciting !! how these 4 days of happiness became so imp in my life ?!?!?!?! i seriously wonder. why is it so so special?? this is the time i meet so many of our family friends/relatives ... there are so many we knw visits us only once a year.. only on ashthomi morning .. their lunch with us aftr the ashthami anjali at the mandir. we have never invited anyone but each year i have seen mom preparing some special dish with luchi and alu dom for them all.

every year on saptomi night my pishi(bua)'s family and we used to hire a vehicle and go out for pandal hopping. visiting the pandals is jst a name to the venture.. our mane motive was always to hogg the unhygenic foods... fuckhaas... ice creams...egg rolls.. chichken roll and wat not. taking ferry rides with my sis .. fighting with the driver to chng the song he's playing ...[ he is the worst dj ever ] ... counting the number of pandals we visited was a job but our aim was always to hit a record count .. so counting the most fake ones in the process ... baba's and bua's most hilarious pjs ... worst pjs ever.. how witty my father can b at times ! Didibhai teasing everyone... her wit always amaze me.. laldi always taking care of who needs what.. me being the subject to be teased on always.. semanti eating the most spicy fuchka ever .. pampai just giggling n rolling ovr all the time ... ma getting tensed of getting the car parked in a proper plc or the police will break the glass :P ....also a plc whr u will need to walk the least to the pandal.. pishi being the coolest babe around... doing all types of badmashi which even we kids cant think of ! oh it used to be so so much fun !!!!

Durga Pujo means so much to us ! what a festival !! it surprises me at times. i still remember my childhood days whn we used to have competition among friends on our new clothes count. Meeting my school Friends. going out with anupa, sukanchi, sayani to name a few. a day our with my office collegues. i miss those days.

Its one festival i look fwd for the whole year.

starting from listening to Mahalaya at 4 in the morning in half sleep to Thakur visarjan on doshomi .. wat a span of time !! staying away from family for pujas is such a pain.. makes me feel so sad. hope i get to visit them for a day atleast.

Gunjan always respected my emotions. i never showed how much i love durga puja but he always had the depth and love to understand that. he always made a point to get my tkts done to visit home whn i was in coll at pune. if not, he used to take me to teh congress bhavan at pune where the begali puja used to take place. we used to have bhog there on asthomi. he takes care of me so much. even this year he took the initiative.. from his tight training schedule he took a day off jst to make me feel good. he loves me so much and i love him too !

I Love Durga Puja !!!! Kolkata is the only place you can get the essence of the Puja !!