How does marriage change you?

Quite a controversial topic isn't it ? Don't judge me. Just today my Friend, Prasenjit had asked me this question while having a casual chat. It might have been a casual question to keep the conversation going but it did made me think. To think what i am today and what i could have never been without marriage. Marriage is an institution !

Today i am a much controlled person.. i know to ignore things, i expect less, learnt to give more.. give more than a person asks ... but what tops the list is .. i can control my temper ! I know how my temper went out of control, since my hostel days. It had affected my life,every now and then .. affected my relation with Gunjan the most in the past years. But now it is much better .. won't say its gone but yes .. much much better !

On 4th Nov its gonna be 6 mths of our marriage. In such a short time span i realized how my mind-set changed and how i am now more ready to change. Why is it so ? My relation with Gunjan is just the same.. yes technically we are husband - wife .. nothing much other than the term and the change in my surname ! We stay alone. We don't stay with my in-laws. So whats the difference between marriage and a live-in relation ?

The commitment ? May be so ! We know we can't run away from each other now even if we realize we are not compatible. So why not live our life happily! I always want a happy life. If i don't get one i have the will to make one ! I know Gunjan is a good human being and loves me a lot.. so why bother about the tits n bits of expectation i have? He tries to fulfill my expectations nevertheless in his own way.. so its better the pass the rest happily isn't it ? It's rather a fantastic experience to be a good Wife. Men have a much much shorter list of wantings compared to any girl ... so just focus on that list and He will make you feel like a Queen. Don't bother about yourself.. slowly your dreams will come true. You will get what you want.. trips.. eating out... shopping... phone bills being huge while u chat with your numerous friends.. the beneficial list is endless.. i swear !

Things Men dislike ? Tears ! i can swear on anyone.... Gal if u want a happy Life .. Don't cry. We do so on drop of a hat.. i realized it. We know how to deal with a crying gal/boy .. but a boy gets confused. I dunno why but they don't understand what he should do to calm her down. They feel a person cries when he is lost/helpless ... and thus always tries to give you a solution. Thats the last thing a girl wants. We cry to get a hug.. to know you are listening.. we blabber whatever we can think of.. each sentence meaning nothing .But they find the meaning to whatever you say and in the process we hurt them. Men don't understand this language .. not their fault ... I don't understand chinese too !! Respect It and behave accordingly :)

By now many of the female readers might be thinking why should only We change ! I guarantee you.. its never so .. We both change.

Have a Happy Life ! :)