Wednesday, November 4

Memories

We have good memories and bad ones too ! But which excites me the most is the childhood memories !! Oh i Love them !

Just 2 days back my childhood friend, Sayani forwarded a pic to me. Both of us sitting on top of a train in a park. Both wearing red woolen frock, with my inner frock peeping out. Me with a grumpy face and Sayani as sweet as ever (always!).

Here, we are in a man-made lake named as the Subhash Sarobar in Kolkata. It is very close to our home and uncle (sayani's dad) used to take us both in his scooter most of the Sundays. It used to be a glory trip.There was a park with all types of swings, slides,climbing rods, see-saw etc. There was also a sand pit for the kids to play. And how can i forget the rabbit cage. It was a huge one.. with around 50 rabbits in there. It used to smell so foul but still loved to see the white cute animals in there. There was a small hill in the middle of the lake, connected to the land by a narrow road with tall trees on both side making a perfect avenue. The hill top had small benches for the walkers/visitors to sit. A visit to the hill top was a charm. Uncle used to take us there rarely which in a way helped to maintain the charm i guess. A surprise trip to the hill after the park used to be such a thrill to both of us ! Oh, i still remember the feel !! :-)

Sayani, is my first friend. First friend of my life. I came to know her in K.B.Roy's Montessori School and soon became good friends. She used to stay in our neighborhood which helped us to enrich our friendship. We played all types of games. Sayani always loved to play with the dolls. Being the teacher, wearing saree and making her dadu our student.I still remember how we used to thrash him for not doing his said-homework and bribe him to say the wrong answers !! We used to play ekka-dokka, kit-kit, colour man, chor-police, kumir-danga(crocodile-land), catching-catch, chain-chain,lock-n-key and many many more. We used to have many friends from the neighbourhood. The boys taught us to play cricket, danguli, marbles etc. Me getting a swimming lesson since the age of 2 was a big time loss. I had to go to the swimming club at 4 and used to be back from there by 530-6. So the evening play at the park was always a loss. Used to get only half an hour time or so. Used to look forward for Sunday. But baba being at home always had put me in a dilemma. Spending time with him or the play with friends always was a tough question, considering the fan i was of my father. But yes there was the Winter(s). No swimming and winter holidays. Me being from the convent school helped. A month long holiday for Christmas gave enough time for us to play.

Rimi, Sompa, Papon ,Bhulu, Sayani and me. That was the internal group. There were many other but i hardly remember those names any more. What weird pet-names we bengali(s) have i wonder. Hilarious !! Sayani and me still joke on them now and then. We are not in touch with the rest but the memories are fresh. Sayani has a better memory though. She keeps me entertained of what not we used to do. Recalling a bit ... Bhulu used to be my Bf and Papon sayani's !! Papon used to like Sayani a lot.. no surprises there sayani being such a cute looking gal !! But guess what? I had received a love letter from Papon once. At the age of 4 i guess. ha ha !! It was more like a betrayal letter than a love one i guess. Won't go into details .. reason ? 1. should not make fun of anyone's emotion specially that of a kid [shit am still giggling!! :D ] 2. a suspense to make my post a hit [ smart thot ! isnt it? :P ]

Memories come in a gush and i love them. Will pen-down more later someday !
Kash mein firse woh innocence enjoy kar pati !




Monday, November 2

How does marriage change you?

Quite a controversial topic isn't it ? Don't judge me. Just today my Friend, Prasenjit had asked me this question while having a casual chat. It might have been a casual question to keep the conversation going but it did made me think. To think what i am today and what i could have never been without marriage. Marriage is an institution !

Today i am a much controlled person.. i know to ignore things, i expect less, learnt to give more.. give more than a person asks ... but what tops the list is .. i can control my temper ! I know how my temper went out of control, since my hostel days. It had affected my life,every now and then .. affected my relation with Gunjan the most in the past years. But now it is much better .. won't say its gone but yes .. much much better !

On 4th Nov its gonna be 6 mths of our marriage. In such a short time span i realized how my mind-set changed and how i am now more ready to change. Why is it so ? My relation with Gunjan is just the same.. yes technically we are husband - wife .. nothing much other than the term and the change in my surname ! We stay alone. We don't stay with my in-laws. So whats the difference between marriage and a live-in relation ?

The commitment ? May be so ! We know we can't run away from each other now even if we realize we are not compatible. So why not live our life happily! I always want a happy life. If i don't get one i have the will to make one ! I know Gunjan is a good human being and loves me a lot.. so why bother about the tits n bits of expectation i have? He tries to fulfill my expectations nevertheless in his own way.. so its better the pass the rest happily isn't it ? It's rather a fantastic experience to be a good Wife. Men have a much much shorter list of wantings compared to any girl ... so just focus on that list and He will make you feel like a Queen. Don't bother about yourself.. slowly your dreams will come true. You will get what you want.. trips.. eating out... shopping... phone bills being huge while u chat with your numerous friends.. the beneficial list is endless.. i swear !

Things Men dislike ? Tears ! i can swear on anyone.... Gal if u want a happy Life .. Don't cry. We do so on drop of a hat.. i realized it. We know how to deal with a crying gal/boy .. but a boy gets confused. I dunno why but they don't understand what he should do to calm her down. They feel a person cries when he is lost/helpless ... and thus always tries to give you a solution. Thats the last thing a girl wants. We cry to get a hug.. to know you are listening.. we blabber whatever we can think of.. each sentence meaning nothing .But they find the meaning to whatever you say and in the process we hurt them. Men don't understand this language .. not their fault ... I don't understand chinese too !! Respect It and behave accordingly :)

By now many of the female readers might be thinking why should only We change ! I guarantee you.. its never so .. We both change.

Have a Happy Life ! :)